What is ADHD?
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that impacts how the brain functions and develops, particularly the prefrontal cortex—the region associated with executive functioning.
The ADHD Brain
Prefrontal cortex
Orbital (behavioural inhibition)
Dorsolateral (verbal and nonverbal working memory; analysis and synthesis)
Ventromedial (self-regulation of affect, arousal, motivation)
Motor cortex
Reduced inhibition
Delayed maturation
Impaired modulation
Motor overflow
Variable responses
Executive Functioning Difficulties
Executive functioning can be compared to the skills a business executive needs to run an organisation efficiently, such as:
Managing attention (focusing and switching attention)
Planning and organizing tasks
Problem solving
Monitoring ongoing tasks
Demonstrating abstract reasoning
Initiating tasks independently
Using working memory effectively
Self-monitoring behaviors and emotions
Controlling emotions
Acting without impulsivity
Difficulties in these areas are common for individuals with ADHD, often making day-to-day functioning more challenging.
Parent-Child Dynamics and ADHD
Typical Behaviours in Children with ADHD
Children with ADHD may display behaviors that can challenge traditional parenting approaches, including:
Lower compliance with instructions and rules
Increased talkativeness, negativity, and defiance
Greater demands for time and attention
Reduced independence, requiring extra support
Heightened emotional reactivity
Parental Responses Over Time
Consistently managing these challenges can cause shifts in parental behavior, such as:
Becoming less emotionally responsive
Demonstrating more negativity or criticism
Adopting a more controlling or directive style
Experiencing increased stress levels
These shifts may contribute to a negative cycle of interaction, making it more difficult for both parent and child to change unhelpful patterns.
Shifting the Dynamic: Fostering Positive Interactions
Breaking the negative cycle is possible by focusing on more positive interactions. Effective strategies include:
Praising and reinforcing specific, desired behaviors
Showing empathy and understanding for your child’s unique challenges
Setting clear, realistic expectations
Prioritizing emotional connection over control
More positive moments nurture the parent-child relationship and encourage adaptive behavior over time.
Resources
ADDitude – ADD & ADHD Symptom Tests, Signs, Treatment, Support
Dr. Ross Greene – The Explosive Child